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Be real and strike a warm bond

Be real and strike a warm bond
Creating strong, warm relationships is not everybody's cup of tea. Pick up ways to to bond with people. 

Show interest in people: Everybody loves a little bit of attention. More so when it's personal. So, make a personal connection with people. Ask them about their loved ones as it gives people a sense of belongingness. Bring out a human element that creates instant bonding. However, make sure to not to get too personal. Maintain that healthy warm distance in personal aspects.

Talk about their interests/hobbies/passion: It's common wisdom that people love to talk about their interests, profession, passion. Find something, an idea or a hobby that others are interested or passionate about and just ask a question. It's always wise to make the person feel wanted by knowing his/her interests or passion. It's a sure shot way to create bonding.

Be a good listener: A good listener is always a winner. Allow people to express themselves. When people talk about the problems, listen and ask pertinent questions. You get to know people through their struggles and challenges. And if you do so with empathy, then you create bonds that will last a lifetime.

Be Real: When you're comfortable, you're real. Don't pretend. Masks eventually fall. People always appreciate genuine emotions. When you are who you are, you share a part of that with the other person, creating a stronger, warmer bond.

This New Natural Testosterone Booster Has Men Everywhere Raving

It's a disturbing thought, one that usually hits after an unexpected physical challenge — like weaker workouts, slower recovery, or not performing in the bedroom the way you used to.
And though you may not "feel old," you know you don't look or feel like the man you used to be.
The issue? You might not have enough free testosterone
A person's bloodstream contains two types of testosterone: bonded testosterone and free testosterone. Bonded testosterone attaches to molecules in the body and is mostly ineffective. However, free testosterone can enter your cells easily and plays a vital role in libido, strength, stamina, and vitality.
While the market is flooded with questionable options for increasing a man's free testosterone levels, a group of researchers in Boston, Massachusetts have developed a dietary supplement that's different. It triggers the body to increase its levels of free testosterone naturally and safely.
Called Nugenix, the supplement primarily relies on an ingredient called Testofen®, which has been shown in clinical trials to boost free testosterone levels, increase sex drive, and improve libido. Adding to Nugenix's potency are additional key ingredients like zinc and vitamins B12 and B6, which have been shown to improve physical performance and strength, increase drive, and aid in recovery.
Nugenix has no harmful side effects, and has been shown to deliver improvements in strength and endurance in as little as a week. According to studies held in both Irvine, California and Queensland, Australia, users reported greater muscle definition and quicker recovery times, increased sex drive, and feelings of alertness.

Eat oats for better heart health, and beyond

Eat oats for better heart health, and beyond
Eat oats for better heart health, and beyond (Thinkstock Photos/Getty Images)
A key morning breakfast food has just got better. The soluble fibre in oats helps lower total and low-density lipoprotein (LDL) or 'bad' cholesterol but scientists now say that the cardiovascular health benefits of oats goes beyond fibre.

The phenolic compound avenanthramide (AVE) - found only in oats - may possess antioxidant, anti-inflammatory, anti-itch and anti-cancer properties.

It suggests that oat AVEs may play an important role in protecting the heart.

Eating whole grains is consistently associated with a reduced risk of chronic disease, including cardiovascular disease.

"Our studies reveal that the heart health benefit of eating oats may go beyond fibre," said Shengmin Sang from North Carolina Agricultural and Technical State University.

The soluble fibre beta-glucan found in oats has been recognised for its ability to lower both total and LDL cholesterol.

According to Mohsen Meydani from the Vascular Biology Laboratory at the Jean Mayer USDA Human Nutrition Research Centre on Aging at Tufts University, oat AVEs suppress the production of inflammatory cytokines associated with fatty streak formation in the arteries.

In addition, oat AVEs appear to repress the process associated with the development of atherosclerosis.

Eleven top scientists from around the globe presented the latest findings on the powerful compounds found in oats in a scientific session titled 'Physicochemical Properties and Biological Functionality of Oats' at the 247th Annual Conference of the American Chemical Society in Dallas, Texas, recently.

Fifa World Cup 2014: Can sex hamper football?

Yes. At least, the Russia, Bosnia and Herzegovina, Chile and Mexico football authorities think so! An article on Time points out that several football teams, in the World Cup season, has come up with strict 'sex rules'. From completely banning sex to specifying the duration for which they can indulge in sex, teams have come up with a gamut of solutions for success, some of them quite bizarre.
For example, the article notes, Brazilian footballers can have sex but not 'acrobatic' sex, French players can have sex but not all night and Nigerian players can sleep with their wives while girlfriends are a strict no-no!
The strict sex-related diktat put down by several football teams, has sparked the usual debate on the necessity to ban sex to ensure the player is not hindered on ground.
"In a sign of what the world's fittest sportsmen and women get up to in the Olympic village, a record 150,000 free condoms — 15 for each competitor — have been made available to them. The phenomenal outpouring of prophylactics means there will be 50 per cent more available to athletes in London than the 100,000 handed out at the last Olympics in Beijing in 2008," The Daily Mail reported.And it's not just restricted to football. The Daily Mailreported in 2012 that 150,000 condoms had been handed out the athletes, making sure that they are suitably prepared for any kind of emergency!
However, there have been conflicted opinions on whether or not sportsmen and women and athletes should have sex before a crucial performance.
Time notes, "Many coaches and athletes believe that abstaining from sex builds up aggression, a belief that probably stems from ancient civilizations like the Greeks, who thought that men derived strength from their semen. This theory is so pervasive that even Muhammed Ali refused to have sex six weeks before a fight, fearing that ejaculation would release the testosterone (and therefore aggression) he needed for a boxing match."
However, most other scientific studies have proved otherwise. An article on Plos observes, "Despite the extravagant stories exchanged between males in locker rooms, a normal session of business time between married partners results in the expenditure of only 25-50 calories, and it’s thus unlikely to influence next day energy stores."
Most of the arguments against sex, however, are based on the perception that sex has psychological repercussions which might reflect on an athlete's performance. But no scientific study has been found to attest the same.
Ian Shrier, a sports medicine specialist, has been quoted on the National Geographic News as saying that the 'long-standing myth that athletes should practice abstinence before important competitions may stem from the theory that sexual frustration leads to increased aggression'.
"After three months without sex, which is not so uncommon for some athletes, testosterone dramatically drops to levels close to children's levels," he said. "Do you think this may be useful for a boxer?" Emmanuele A Jannini of the University of L'Aquila in Italy is quoted as saying in National Geographic.
In fact, an article on, suggests that sex, the night before a big game, could actually be beneficial. It cites one study which says that testosterone boost from an orgasm might actually boost muscle strength and leg power for men. Whereas, for women, hormones released during an orgasm can actually 'stop the release of pain transmitters' for close to 24 hours. Which means it could help relax sore muscles and reduce muscle pain.
An article on CNN quotes Maria Cristina Rodríguez Gutierrez, director of sports medicine at the National Autonomous University of Mexico, as saying, "Sex only burns between 200 and 300 kilocalories, which doesn't compare to running a marathon or just a regular workout session. You can restore these calories by eating a chocolate bar or drinking a can of soda."
However, the Bosnia coach, who warned, 'there will be no sex in Brazil', is not listening! Bad luck, boys!

Thinking Of A Happy Place Might Help Reduce Pain

Visualizing a safe place could help lessen pain during a medical procedure, a new study suggests.

Researchers examined the efficacy of visualization techniques during ablation of atrial fibrillation, a procedure that involves inserting a catheter with an electrode at the end of it into the body to destroy parts of the heart responsible for atrial fibrillation.
They examined 76 patients who used visualization techniques and 71 patients who received conventional care. The procedure took two to four hours, and all participants in the study also received local anesthesia, as well as painkillers that were administered by a nurse when they pushed a button. The participants were asked about their pain and anxiety every 15 minutes.
The patients who were in the visualization group were asked to "describe a comfortable safe place they want to be during the procedure. People have chosen a summer house, the beach, or the woods," study researcher Marianne Wetendorff Nørgaard, a clinical nurse specialist at Copenhagen University Hospital, Rigshospitalet, said in a statement. "During the procedure the nurse asks the patient to focus on their safe place and how it looks, smells and sounds."
And when a patient felt pain during the procedure, the nurse helped the patient to use visualization to provide an alternative reason for the pain.
"For example, if the patient says 'my chest is burning', the nurse may say 'imagine that it's a cold day and there is ice on your chest,'" Nørgaard explained in the statement. "Patients tell us that being in this trance like state with safe images makes the procedure a pleasant experience and it feels shorter."
Researchers found that the patients who were in the visualization group reported being in pain fewer times and requested fewer painkillers with the push button. However, researchers did not find that pain intensity or anxiety differed between those who employed visualization techniques and those who didn't.
The findings were presented at EuroHeartCare 2014; because they have yet to be published in a peer-reviewed journal, they should be considered preliminary. 

'Mean Girls' characters: Where are they now?

MEAN-GIRLSThis is worse than wearing sweatpants: Mean Girls isn’t getting a Tina Fey-penned sequel!
Despite some hopeful speculation from fans recently, Fey confirmed the news to Extra on Wednesday, saying, “We’re coming up next month on the 10-year anniversary of the original movie… We’re going to see if there’s any way to get everyone together, but not a movie, sadly. We’re all past high school age.” (Mean Girls 2, the 2011 TV movie sequel with a whole new group of girls, is best not mentioned.)
Like any good twenty-something, I love the movie, but the “no sequel” news is totally for the best. There’s no way people wouldn’t be disappointed by whatever they came up with, and now, fans can just continue to watch and love the original as the perfect high school satire that it is. For those that would like a little more, all hope isn’t lost: Fey is directing her energy towards a possible Mean Girls musical (which she told EW about last year in her EW Interview).
Since Fey has made it clear we aren’t going to get Regina and Gretchen’s High School Reunion, just for fun I went ahead and pictured where the whole fetch gang is now, 10 years post-high school.
Regina George: Regina George continued playing lacrosse at the college level, and subsequently joined a sorority, which she was ultimately kicked out of after an email she wrote cleverly berating her sisters went viral. She now works in PR, and her assistant has told her she isn’t allowed to tweet anymore, as her cutting, pitch-perfect insults have offended everyone from the Modern Family kids to people at the highest levels of the United States government. Anna Wintour has been nothing but impressed.
Gretchen Wieners: Gretchen got pregnant by her loser boyfriend senior year of college, and then ditched the guy (Joey Donner). After giving birth to Bella (that name is totally going to happen), she decided motherhood was her true calling. Recently, she’s the kindergarten helper in Bella’s class, making sure every person gets a Valentine’s Day card (including the cute single dads!). She also works part-time as an administrative assistant at Pillsbury, where she is regularly complimented on her hair.
Cady Heron: After she broke up with Aaron Samuels because he was far too dumb for her post-high school, Cady listened to her mom (and Ms. Norbury) and attended Northwestern University, graduating with a degree in Mathematics. Currently, she’s a teacher, and has a quiet life with good friends (including Janis, but not Damian; he knows what he did). Her secret pleasure is reading celebrity gossip, but she can’t help but feel for the young women the tabloids exploit, regardless of the mistakes they may have made.
Karen Smith: Karen’s weather reports quickly went viral, and she was snapped up right out of high school to become one of the weather people for Fox News, a job she holds to this day. Smith still keeps up with Wieners and her daughter via Facebook; she’s fond of “Like”-ing nearly every post, and still hasn’t totally figured out hashtags. Regina has not responded to her friend request.
Aaron Samuels: Aaron works as a model. Obsessed with his body and weight, he’s often overheard declaring he doesn’t do carbs. Damian totally heard he may have a little bit of a drug habit, and his new girlfriend is a total gold digger. He cries for what could have been with Cady every year on Oct. 3.
Janis Ian: After graduation, Janis went to art school before dropping out because there were too many rules. She moved to L.A., and while she hates most of the people she meets, she’s built a solid career for herself as a modernist painter. She never unfriended any of the girls she knew when she was 17 because she enjoys the feeling of superiority she gets while regularly checking out their social media presences. She can be found with a protest sign in her hand. 
Damian: Damian became a shameless social climber. After graduating from college in the Midwest, he moved to NYC where he regularly stalked celebs and appeared as a hanger-on on various reality shows. He once helped Rachel Zoe pick out a pair of shoes. He dropped whatever his last name was, and now hosts an eponymous show onE!.
Ms. Norbury achieved total world domination.

World Cup 2014: Which teams are allowed to have sex?

Forget the fantastic goals and put the comical cans of spray paint to the back of your mind. The real story coming from the Brazil World Cup is going on behind closed doors. It's not yet another Fifa corruption claim, but which players are, er, scoring off the pitch.

More goals have been scored in the opening days of the competition that at any previous tournament, but the world's media has been speculating breathlessly about another kind of scoring: which teams' managers are, shall we say, restricting strenuous nocturnal stamina-training activities.

There are no hard and fast rules about whether players should be allowed to have sex during tournament periods, but some teams are being very firm about their sexually restrictive policies, while others are happy to let nature take its course.

We do know that the Italian team, which vanquished England on Saturday, were permitted to enjoy the company of their wives and girlfriends in Manaus the night before their 2-1 victory. Of course, the same was true of the England camp, though, so the Italians had no unfair advantage there.

As an aside, gullible fans can take cheer from a breathless Daily Star "exclusive" which "revealed" that England fans could now relax, as the arrival of "sexy" Coleen Rooney would "perk" up her husband Wayne's performance on the pitch, after he fired "blanks" against Italy. That's a victory against Uruguay sorted then, lads.

The Spanish and Germans are allowed to play away from the pitch throughout the four-week festival of football, but are forbidden from indulging the night before any game, so it's unlikely that it was a night of passion with his wife Lisa that inspired striker Thomas Mueller to score a hat-trick on the pitch against Portugal.

Oddly, the Costa Ricans only have a restriction on sex until the second round of the tournament, while the more traditional Nigerians are only allowed to bed down with their wives, not their girlfriends. In contrast, the Brazilian and Mexican players have been told to fill their boots, as long as it's not too acrobatic. One can only assume team coaches are pulling all-night shifts outside bedroom doors to enforce a missionary-only policy

Unsurprisingly, it's the romance-friendly French who have perhaps the most trusting policy, allowing a sexual free-for-all as long as the frequency, type and timing of activities don't get out of control. Apparently, the team's former doctor says that sex is "relaxing" for the players, but there's a stern warning that it shouldn't become an all-night activity. Most scientists tend to agree with him, too, with numerous studies finding sex before sport has few, if any, ill effects on the players' game.

The Bosnia and Herzegovina manager obviously hasn't seen those studies, though, and he's instigated a total sex ban. It's the same story for the sex-deprived players of Russia and Chile, though the latter could potentially pop home between games for some forbidden passion. Perhaps they've taken inspiration from the ancient Greeks, who believed that preserving a man's sperm was essential to creating the required aggression for public performance.

What footballers and elite athletes get up to at sporting competitions has ignited media feeding frenzies before. In 2006 the England camp was called a "circus" by Rio Ferdinand after manager Sven Goran Eriksson allowed celebrity wives and girlfriends such as Victoria Beckham and Cheryl Cole to accompany the squad. Four years later, Fabio Capello was much stricter in South Africa - not that it did much good on the pitch.

As for the elite stars themselves, most have (sensibly) stayed silent about the intimate details of their sexual exploits, but back in the 1990s Linford Christie, the British sprinter, famously said a romp the night before a race made his legs feel like lead. That wouldn't do for a quarter-final clash.

The worrying trend of 'sexting'

Sexting: You Can Do Something About It

A growing trend among youngsters to take and share indecent photos through mobile phones is a matter of grave concern. 
Two major surveys involving more than 3,000 children suggest that four out of ten have received or seen an indecent image via a mobile, reports the Daily Mail .

As if you weren’t concerned enough about your child’s online life, the topic of sexting is another important facet to our modern day e-world. Sexting encompasses any electronic exchange that contains sexual talk and or pictures. In mild cases it can look like flirting, while in severe cases it can be considered a crime. Take, for example, a just barely 18 year-old 12th grade boy who is texting an almost 15 year old freshman. He asks her “how far she has gone,” which then leads to other graphic questions. In the end he asks her if she’d send him a suggestive picture of herself. She obliges, and suddenly you have a very serious offense. 

A serving police officer seconded to the survey, Alan Earl, has given talks in scores of secondary schools about the dangers of children swapping explicit photographs of themselves. "Boys ask girls to take pictures of themselves naked, and the girls do it to please them. Not all girls, but those who have boyfriends: they think their pictures are not going to be shown." 

 "After my talk, at almost every school, a teacher will approach me and confide that they've already had to deal with an incident like those I've described," Earl added. 
More typically, the naked images sent around phones are static poses, usually of girls standing up or lying down. 

"It is girlfriend/boyfriend stuff, but then the relationship breaks down and the boy sends the pictures on," said Alan Earl. 

A photograph of a young girl in the wrong hands is the beginning of a nightmare.  Because teens can “hide” behind their screens, sexting, allows them to learn about sexual behaviors without the face-to-face embarrassment. Even “good” girls and boys may be tempted to sext.

When should you talk to your teen about sexting?  And what should you say? The answer is to talk opening about cell phone use and sexting before it happens. 

  • Tell your child/teen that YOU have the ability to monitor their texts.  Let him or her know that if sexual talk, body pictures or other crude information is exchanged, you will suspend cellular use. 
  • Enforce a NO BODY PICTURES rule.  No excuses.
  • Monitor their texts! If this feels violating, then monitor the time texts are sent (aka 2 am) and to whom they are sent.
  • Children under the age of 16 do not REALLY need smart phones with high resolution picture capabilities, etc.  This only facilitates sexting.
  • Talk to girls about the dangers of having text conversations about sexual experiences – past and potential future. Boys will quickly become more bold and eager to text more and ask more graphic questions. Girls sometimes do not know how to stop unsolicited questions or requests for pictures of themselves.
  • Talk to boys about the trouble that can result from blatant sexual solicitations. Girls will often-times NOT tell them they are uncomfortable, or can turn around and claim “sexual harassment” when none was intended (this should be judged by a case-to-case basis obviously.)

With the prevalence of cell phones, sexting is on the rise. Parents need to be aware of the threats and talk to their children about the dangers to prevent the potentially devestating, and long-lasting effects of sexting.

Top 10 Best New Sex Tips for 2012

Top 10 Best New Sex Tips for 2012
Some sex research has a tendency to state the obvious. None of these studies did. We rounded up the surprising (#10), the fascinating (#3), and the plain weird (#9) to bring you the best sex and relationship stories of 2012. (What better things do you have to do on New Year’s Day? Once your hangover is gone, that is.)

You’re welcome.

1. A couple that cuddles together stays together.
Tough guys, listen up: A new study from the Kinsey Institute found that men value cuddling more than women do. In fact, the researchers say that the notion that women like to cuddle more than guys is just a stereotype—and that men may have a greater need for nonsexual contact in the long tern. Still, feel free to sidle up to her. Snuggling was related to sexual satisfaction.

2. Don’t cheat, ever.
Cheating on a woman not only fractures your relationship with her—it can also fracture your penis. A new study in the journal Sexual Medicine found that men who have extramarital affairs are more likely to suffer penis fractures than guys who don’t stray. (Normally, broken penises wouldn’t rank this high on our list of the best research of last year, but this study is definitely an exception.) The reason? A lot of these same men end up having affairs in weird locations, like cars, elevators, and bathroom stalls. And if you’re having sex in a physically awkward location, you’re more likely to crush yourself.

3. Deep voices turn women on.
There could be another reason why Barry White was such a ladies man: He had a legendary baritone. And according to a new study in the journal Memory & Cognition, women prefer listening to men with deep voices, compared to their more highly-pitched counterparts. The reason could be evolutionary, say the scientists, who note that deep voices indicate genetic superiority in males. The good news? You can fake it. The bad news? You might also sound like a creep.

4. Choose a wider variety of porn.
No one wants to watch the same movie over and over again—even if that “movie” happens to be porn. That’s because watching the same erotic film repeatedly can blunt women’s arousal. In a new Dutch study, women who viewed 18 similar clips experienced a dip in vaginal responses; men’s arousal, on the other hand, remained constant. Later, while watching new content, both sexes’ arousal spiked. The takeaway: Novelty helps excite her—choose your films accordingly.

5. Or, on second though, maybe you should just cut back on the porn…
If you prefer the ladies online to the ones in real-life, you could be setting yourself up for future libido problems. A new report on an Italian Society of Andrology and Sexual Medicine survey found that men who started watching porn in their mid-teens—and still continue to watch it daily—tend to have more trouble getting an erection. The Internet allows for immediate access to porn, which wires the brain for constant visual stimuli, say the scientists. New or novel porn jacks up the release of dopamine but can eventually leads to an inability to masturbate without it, he says.

6. It’s not always your fault that she’s faking her orgasms.
If you suspect that your girlfriend is faking it, she might have suspicious of her own: Women who think their partner is going to cheat on them are more likely to fake an orgasm than ladies who feel secure in their relationship, reports a recent study in Archives and Sexual Behavior. But she doesn’t just put on a show to keep you from bolting. Research points to a few more reasons why she imitates the “big O.”
Read the full story: The Strange Reason Why She’s Faking It

7. Don’t reach for the condom right away.
Using protection doesn’t have to kill the mood—just wait until the end of a foreplay session before you put it on. Men who initiate condom use too early—especially without asking her first—seem to presume sex and may come off like they’re overly afraid of contracting an STD, say the researchers. Your best move is to wait for her to initiate it, but if she’s not budging just say, “I want you so bad. Do you mind if we grab a condom?”

8. Everyone needs a good rebound.
Yep, you read that right. And here’s why: Being in a long-term relationship changes your concept of your identity, according to a study in the Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin. Over time, your friends, possessions, and even goals become less about “you” and more about “us.” And so much of that post-breakup anguish is actually about the fracture of a person’s identity. Hence, the rebound. Developing a new relationship could help fill that hole—but the best way to go about doing it is to find someone who shares an interest that you’re also passionate about. You can start rebuilding your identity from there.

9. Your hand size is linked to your penis size.
We dare you to not look at your hand after reading this: Guys with shorter index fingers than ring fingers tend to have bigger penises than guys with the opposite digit scenario, finds a new study in the Asian Journal of Andrology. The connection: The testosterone men get exposed to while they’re still fetuses controls both penis and finger length, the researchers explain.

10. Pillow talk should come before sex—not after.
Before you get to the foreplay, leave a little room for the sweet nothings. When researchers surveyed women about their post-coital activities, women rated intimate talk as “significantly more important” before sex than after. She may want to talk to you before sex to access your level of commitment, say the researchers. Note: That doesn’t give you an excuse to just roll over afterwards. And no scientist should have to tell you that.


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